And who restrain (their) anger, and forgive (the faults of) men; for God loves those who dgood (to others)Holy Qur'an, ch. Aale I’mraan (3), vs. 134 

The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘The best of my community are those who when treated foolishly; are tolerant, and when attacked; they forgive, and when they are hurt; are patient.’
Imam al-Rida (AS) said, ‘He who seeks forgiveness with his tongue but does not feel remorse (regret) in his heart has fooled himself.’

The most merciful person is the one who forgives when he is able to revenge. Imam Hussein (AS).
Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives.

053. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU PLANT:38, Emperor,s successor selection – one year with planting boiled seeds; all of them substituted except one who was selected successor.
If you plant honesty, you will reap trust. If you plant goodness, you will reap friends. If you plant humility, you will reap greatness. If you plant perseverance, you will reap victory. If you plant consideration, you will reap harmony. If you plant hard work, you will reap success. If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation. If you plant openness, you will reap intimacy. If you plant patience, you will reap improvements. If you plant faith, you will reap miracles.
But If you plant dishonesty, you will reap distrust. If you plant selfishness, you will reap loneliness. If you plant pride, you will reap destruction. If you plant envy, you will reap trouble. If you plant laziness, you will reap stagnation. If you plant bitterness, you will reap isolation. If you plant greed, you will reap loss. If you plant gossip, you will reap enemies. If you plant worries, you will reap wrinkles. If you plant sin, you will reap guilt.
054. GENEROSITY: 39, "Overlook and forgive the weakness of generous people, because if they fall down, Allah gives his hand in their hands and helps them…." Imam Ali (AS). Mahatma Gandhi’s campaign collecting funds for the Charkha Sangh. He honorably/carefully collected the copper coin from an old lady who had the only coin which she gifted.
089. SAND AND STONE: 66, on the in desert two friends argued and one slapped other. The hurt friend wrote on sand, ‘today my best friend slapped me’. Continued walking, while taking bath the hurt friend started drowning. He wrote on a stone, ‘today my best friend saved me’. The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?” The other friend replied: “When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.” Learn to write your hurts in the sand, and to carve your benefits in stone.

· Forgive & forget. Remember the rewards and virtues of patience, mercy, and forgiveness. The Qur'an 42:47 speaks of forgiveness, "And those who avoid major sins and immoralities and when angry they forgive."

You don’t have to live guilty and condemned. It’s time to forgive yourself. Receive His mercy and move forward with your life. 

God forgives, we don’t forgive ourselves.

There lived amongst Bani Isra'il, a person who was so sinful and immoral that they eventually had him expelled from their midst.
Once, while wandering around, he came across a pious worshipper, above whose head flew a pigeon casting its shadow over him (thus protecting him from the sun). He said to himself: “I am a Banished person but this man is a pious individual; if I sit near him it is possible that due to his piety, Allah may show mercy upon me too.”
With this in mind, he approached the worshipper and sat down beside him. On seeing the exiled man sit next to him, the worshipper thought to himself: “I am the pious worshipper of this tribe whilst he is a disreputable, Banished and despised sinner; how can he sit down beside me?” Turning his head away from the man, the worshipper ordered him to go away from him.
Just as he had uttered these words, Allah revealed to the prophet of the time: “Go to those two persons and ask them to start their deeds afresh, for I have forgiven all the sins of the immoral person and erased all the good deeds of the worshipper,” (for exhibiting self-conceit and holding the other person in contempt).

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
I am a loving, forgiving, gentle and kind and am safe in the knowledge that life loves me.


 “Anger is the key that opens the door to all kinds of vices” – Imam Hassan Askari (a.s)

A man came out of his home to admire his new car. To his horror his little son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy’s hand into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Upon taking a closer look, the man saw that his little boy had etched the words, “I LOVE YOU DAD” on the car.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said “Dad, I’m sorry about your car.” Then he asked, “But when are my fingers going to grow back?’

Harmful effects of anger:
· Increases frustration
· Prevents one from finding a solution to the problem.
· Makes one physically sick
· It’s a cause for break in human relationships
· Anger is responsible for one of the most depraved human behavior – child & wife abuse.

Anger Management:
· "And if an evil suggestion comes to you from shaytan, then seek refuge in Allah, He is hearing and knowing." (Qur'an 7:200) Therefore when one is angry he should immediately say “`ûdhû billâhi min ash-shaytân ir rajîm”

· Do wudu The holy Prophet (s.a.w.w) has said "Anger from shaytan, shaytan from fire; fire is put out by water; so when angry do wudu"

· Change body position. Our Prophet (peace and blessings be unto him) said, "If one of you gets angry while standing, he should sit. If he is still angry, he should lie down."
· Divert attention away from the cause of anger and participate in strenuous physical activity aiming at letting steam out and relaxing muscles
· Be silent, don't speak. The Prophet (peace and blessings be unto him) said, "Teach, simplify, don't complicate and if you get angry be silent
· Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry. Once you identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies on how to remedy the situation.
· Forgive & forget. Remember the rewards and virtues of patience, mercy, and forgiveness. 
The Qur'an 42:47 speaks of forgiveness, "And those who avoid major sins and immoralities and when angry they forgive."

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